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September 2013

Feast On Your Life

Love After Love

The time will come
when, with elation
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door, in your own mirror
and each will smile at the other's welcome,

and say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was your self.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you

all your life, whom you ignored
for another, who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,

the photographs, the desperate notes,
peel your own image from the mirror.
Sit. Feast on your life. 

Selecting a Jewelry Box to House Heirlooms

Every little girl loves to play with her mother's jewelry. They enjoy dressing up like their mothers and modeling their jewelry all over the house. Little do they know that one day the contents of this lovely jewelry box will one day belong to them. Many of these items are more than likely treasured family heirlooms, which will be kept in the family forever. They have been passed down from generation to generation and are kept safe in these decorative boxes.



Some storage units for these priceless pieces of jewelry can be even more lavish than their contents. They come in all shapes and sizes and can be as tall as five feet or as tiny as a few inches. The size of one's jewelry case strictly depends on how much jewelry needs to be housed. Jewelry stores and websites all over the country have these boxes for sale. They are extremely affordable and will keep your prized possessions safe from the world's elements. As long as you keep up with the yearly maintenance and cleaning of your jewelry, and store it properly, there is no reason you and your posterity will not enjoy these family heirlooms for years and years to come.

A Sample Questionnaire

Several people responded to my previous post today about Chuck & Dolores, A Love Story, asking me what questions I sent around to my family to gather memories. Below is a list that you might find helpful. Feel free to tweak the list for anything additional you might want to learn. I added the caveat that people should feel free to skip any questions or expand on anything. Group emails are fun because everyone can see the responses which spark additional memories for the group. And while everyone may not respond, they may later tell you in person or respond in their own way. I hope this list helps you begin a conversation about memories of loved ones in your family. 

A very important added note:  My family used this list for my grandparents who died many years ago to jumpstart memories, but I urge you to ask the same type of questions - and more! - of your family living right around you.  An all too common regret people have is not getting stories from their parents, aunts, uncles and grandparents before it is too late. 


  • Where and when were they born?
  • Did they have any nicknames?
  • Endearments they used with each other or with family?
  • How would you describe their personality?
  • How would you describe their physical looks?
  • Do you have a favorite or vivid memory?
  • How/where did they meet their spouse?
  • Jobs/career?
  • Organizations or clubs?
  • Did they collect anything?
  • Favorite hobbies/past times?
  • Favorite food and/or food associations you have with them?
  • Style of dress or signature piece/accessory?
  • Any signature cologne/perfume?
  • Favorite color/flower/song/other?
  • Sayings or quips they often said?
  • Any pets?
  • Did they have a favorite vacation spot?
  • What do you miss the most about them?
  • What is the image of him/her that you carry with you?
  • Do you have news clippings, obituaries, family histories, family trees, diaries, letters or other ephemera to share?
  • Any other memories, details or stories you want to add?





Chuck & Dolores, A Love Story

Today is Grandparent's Day and I've been going through some old family photographs. My maternal grandparents were Charles and Dolores Markley. They passed away several years ago, but they are always with us. I want to write a simple illustrated children's book for my son to tell  him the story of their life. I sent around a group email with a short list of questions to all my Markley aunts, uncles and cousins to gather memories. It was such a treat to read each response which then sparked more memories. Here's the first draft:




Charles Markley and Dolores Foerster met at a dance in Stephen, South Dakota.  Charles was the oldest of 11 children and Dolores was the youngest of 11 children. 

They were married on February 11, 1942. Dolores wore a street length frock of beige with brown accessories, a single strand of pearls and a corsage was of talisman roses.

Dolores worked as a secretary at the Stephan Indian Mission, where she earned $15 per week. Chuck (as everyone called him) was studying to be an accountant. When WWII broke out, his higher education was interrupted and he joined the Air Force. He was stationed as a radio officer in Lubbock, Texas. After the war, they moved to Highmore, South Dakota where Chuck opened Chuck’s Shoe Service & Clothing.

They raised a family of five daughters and two sons: Camille, Pamela, Susan, Cynthia, Janet, Tom and Jerry.

Dolores loved classical music and would sit down at the piano and play beautifully by ear. Chuck liked to sing Oh Danny Boy in his strong tenor voice.

They loved card games, pinochle, cribbage, dominoes, bridge. Sometimes Chuck would say "Idle old stink" if you had a better hand than he did. They both enjoyed their bowling leagues.

Dolores liked to garden and sew.  She would stay up late making matching dresses for her five daughters.

Chuck liked to smoke his pipe, sort his tackle box and watch baseball. He took his two sons fishing and hunting. He was a volunteer fireman and took a turn as Highmore’s mayor during the Centennial.

Dolores signature look included pedal pushers, cat-eye glasses, brooches and scarves.  Chuck dressed in polo shirts and wore hats sometimes adorned with a fishing lure.

Dolores had a dry sense of humor and loved a good joke. She had a great wink and often would stick her tongue out at you playfully.  As an endearment she sometimes said, “Ok Herkimer.”

Their weekly grocery budget was $35 for the family of nine. Dolores was famous for her baby dill pickles, fried chicken and rhubarb pie.

Dolores was deathly afraid of snakes and did not like the water.  

After they retired they spent winters in Mesa, Arizona and summers at Lake Okoboji, Iowa.

When Chuck got sick he held on until their 50th wedding anniversary.  He sent his love a dozen red roses and died three days later.

Dolores continued baking, gardening and cracking jokes. Her children took her to the Grand Canyon to celebrate her 80th birthday and she passed away a few years later. Chuck and Dolores are buried next to each other along with their oldest daughter Camille in Sioux Falls, South Dakota.

I miss them very much.

Curriculum Vitae

Inspired by Pulitzer Poet Lisel Mueller's poem below, I wrote my own version of a minuscule memoir.

Curriculum Vitae

1) I was born in a Free City, near the North Sea.

2) In the year of my birth, money was shredded into
confetti. A loaf of bread cost a million marks. Of
course I do not remember this.

3) Parents and grandparents hovered around me. The
world I lived in had a soft voice and no claws.

4) A cornucopia filled with treats took me into a building
with bells. A wide-bosomed teacher took me in.

5) At home the bookshelves connected heaven and earth.

6) On Sundays the city child waded through pinecones
and primrose marshes, a short train ride away.

7) My country was struck by history more deadly than
earthquakes or hurricanes.

8) My father was busy eluding the monsters. My mother
told me the walls had ears. I learned the burden of secrets.

9) I moved into the too bright days, the too dark nights
of adolescence.

10) Two parents, two daughters, we followed the sun
and the moon across the ocean. My grandparents stayed
behind in darkness.

11) In the new language everyone spoke too fast. Eventually
I caught up with them.

12) When I met you, the new language became the language
of love.

13) The death of the mother hurt the daughter into poetry.
The daughter became a mother of daughters.

14) Ordinary life: the plenty and thick of it. Knots tying
threads to everywhere. The past pushed away, the future left
unimagined for the sake of the glorious, difficult, passionate
present.

15) Years and years of this.

16) The children no longer children. An old man's pain, an
old man's loneliness.

17) And then my father too disappeared.

18) I tried to go home again. I stood at the door to my
childhood, but it was closed to the public.

19) One day, on a crowded elevator, everyone's face was younger
than mine.

20) So far, so good. The brilliant days and nights are
breathless in their hurry. We follow, you and I.

~ Lisel Mueller



Curriculum Vitae
1) I was born on the plains. A city girl from Dakota, I say, laughing.

2)
Second of four children, I had a noisy childhood building forts, swinging from trees, sleeping in a yellow canopy bed and reading stacks of books.

3)
We spent honey-colored summers at a lake cabin, swimming off the dock and having boat picnics.

4)
At Catholic school I was earnest and liked tests. I played well with others. There weren't enough hours in the day to read.

5)
Ballet, tennis, soccer, cheerleading, skiing, French class, editing the newspaper kept me busy sampling personas. I didn't rebel too much, but I dreamt of being reckless.

6)
First love, or what I thought was love.

7)
At eighteen, I went abroad to live in Istanbul. Just as I was gaining confidence I was treated as a fragile princess.

8)
At university, I become more me. Loved and was loved by a good man, but I left him to go love the world.

9) My e
ducation continued on the Grand Tour. I then worked at a London off-license learning the wine trade. I lived on smoked salmon sandwiches, champagne, tea. My friends hung in the Royal Portrait Museum.

10)
Wound up in San Francisco. Heady, serious love affair. Three years of gleeful, careless melee during the internet boom. Rode the wave and, all too predictably, crashed on the shore.

11)
After reading about heartbreak in novels, I suddenly understood personally, physically, to be torn asunder.

12)
Napa Valley interlude.

13)
Ten nomadic years, stepping up for adventures of any kind. Peered around many corners to find me again.

14)
Love walks in the door. A new chapter began involving a lot of time in Canada, a surprisingly beautiful place. O Canada, I was happy to be embraced.

15)
More travels, more poetry, love grows.

16)
South American explorations. Sailed to Antarctica to reinvent myself yet again. Walt Whitman was right, I do contain multitudes.

17)
Elopement and then proper wedding to a man worth the wait. Life continues to live up to my optimism.

18)
Nine months to experience the wonder of pregnancy and then the awe of birth. A perfect tiny person, a little boy, grew inexplicably underneath my heart. Said heart expands a hundredfold.

19)
Crystallized moments of daily family life, a new home, the joys of writing.

20)
The wide world beckons,  Come, come, you have seen nothing yet.

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